Early morning while brushing my teeth, my boarder says “What time can you be free? I want to talk to you”
Now, I am at home most time of the day, from Mondays to Fridays, unless I have some important errands to do. Nobody needs any appointment to talk to me.
I tell her “Shoot, I am all ears.”
“No, first you get free then I have to tell you something.” She says and she disappears into her room.
I quickly rinse my mouth, wash my face, towel it and walk into her room.
“What is it?” I ask
“Is there no discipline in this house? Don’t you have any rules for your boarders?” she says.
I do have rules for the boarders who occupy my spare room. There are only three main rules which I expect my boarders to follow: Tidy up the kitchen after use, be back home before 12 midnight and none of their visitors are allowed inside my house.
I looked at her in askance on introducing some more rules.
“I am unhappy with my room mate” she says, “She is watching TV late nights, sometimes up to 2am, continuously shifting channels. I cannot sleep with flickering lights. Is there no discipline in this house? I think you should introduce strict hours for watching TV. I suggest that there should be no TV after 11pm.”
Just then her room mate emerges from bathroom and enters the room.
“Look, here is complain, your room mate is unhappy about your late night TV hours” I tell her
“And I am too,” she says.
“Now, what complain do you have?” I ask her
“I am uncomfortable because she is too lazy and keeps her part of the area too untidy. I don’t like clutter in this room but she won’t listen.”
I look around and I understand what she means. The bed-sheet is wrinkled; the dressing table is cluttered with books, water-bottles, combs, creams, medicines, etc.
“Cluttered room is cluttered mind’” I tell her, “Lets make a deal. You keep your room clean and she will put off TV by 11p.m”
Then follows the argument for next ten minutes: insensitivity towards each other’s comfort (you don’t understand my problems), lack of communication (why didn’t you tell me first?), compromise (I will do it your way only if you do it mine)
Today, their room was clean and tidy, the lights have gone off at 11pm.
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