No, Don’t
wish me ‘Happy New Year’ I am not in mood. There is nothing to celebrate. You
tell me to move on, things are not going to change.
How can I?
I am still
angry and distressed when I think about the suffering she went through at the heinous
acts of six men. Each time I think of her, a chill runs through my spine. Did
they have no consciousness and the sensitivity of a human being? Is their desire
for violence so strong that they lose all their decency? What kind of parents
do they have? Should I blame these parents who have been unsuccessful in
instilling good values in their family? Or should I blame the system that does
not enforce strict laws?
Good
upbringing and proper communication with the parents plays a very important role
in the development of a child. It depends on moral values instilled in
childhood that shapes up their personality. Poverty and social status has
nothing to do with the kind of person you will grow up to be.
Whatever
values are induced in our system during childhood remains with us forever.
I lost my
father at the age of 3years and childhood was difficult with limited funds to
sustain but my mom was a strong woman who always reminded us to follow a clean
path. She instilled fear in us from doing anything wrong. I don’t lie, nor
steal or commit any crime, why? Because I belong to a polished family, where
mom always stuck to the truth.
This was
possible because there was no communication gap.
Who are
these men then, who commit such crimes? Can I blame their parents? Are they
violent because they did not grow up in healthy environment or they grew up in
the house where there was no order and discipline? Maybe their parents were so
busy in their own problems that they could not communicate with their children
during their growing up years.
Or should
I blame the system?
So many crimes are committed everyday and there is no law
to protect its’ citizens. There are no severe punishments and many of the
crimes are not even reported because of the slack judiciary system, But then, I
am thinking whether such crimes happen in foreign countries too and how do they
succeed in controlling crime? whether people do eve-teasing just for fun to get some cheap thrills?
When I
travel abroad I see lots of bare skin, on the beaches, in the clubs and even on
the streets. Group of women are seen at the bar, drinking hard drinks, laughing
loudly, dancing with strangers. They are not loose women, they are just girls
who want to have fun. They are not molested or raped. Men don’t stare. Nobody
bothers them.
Indians
have never learnt to respect women. Whether you are Sita or Draupati, men will
never respect you. This is the mind-set of Indian men. They feel their need to
dominate over woman.
The family is the basic cell of government: it is where we are trained to believe that we are human beings or that we are chattel, it is where we are trained to see the sex and race divisions and become callous to injustice even if it is done to ourselves, to accept as biological a full system of authoritarian government.~ Gloria Steinem
However
strict the laws will be, unless we change the attitude and mentality of men in
the society, we will never be a free nation.
